views on vulgarities?

(this is gonna be LONG, and I apologize in advance)

Vulgarities' offensiveness is overrated and the society's opinions on the people who use them are way too judgmental.

I guess it's pretty clear that I am not shy about using them, but I can never understand anyone's personal vendetta against people who do. It's one thing to be offended by a direct 'fuck you' in your face, and another to be offended by the mere use of the word e.g. "This is fucking pretty".

I have been around people who are just very uncool (for lack of a better word). No matter the context, once their prickly sharp ears pick up a profanity, they will frown, or look appalled, or tsk you. And this just makes me wanna throw a fist in their face. Nobody is forcing them to spout vulgarities so why that reaction?! They view vulgarities as a foul language but isn't that solely dependent on the context? This is a kind of immaturity I cannot tolerate.

All I am saying is, people are too narrow-minded and they misunderstand the purpose of vulgarities. Given these 3 phrases to express myself:
1. I am very angry
2. I am furious.
3. I am fucking pissed off.
I would def choose #03, because it sends the message loud and clear. Isn't that one reason of communication anyway? To convey what you are feeling as accurately as possible?

I always plan my use of vulgarities, especially when I want to hurt someone. I have hardly used them 'accidentally'. In any case, I would tread carefully.

For example:
I generally don't use them with my family because my parents did not raise me up this way and I respect them. But if and when they should ask me if I use vulgarities, I will admit with no shame. This has become a part of who I am. Not portraying a vulgar, uncaring image, but one that is straightforward and above the mundane.

I will not use them with colleagues/bosses/strangers, only because I am more than aware of the society's standards and how I will be judged unfairly just because of what comes out of my mouth.

I will not use them with people who hate vulgarities. Firstly because that would be a direct disrespect, and secondly because, the fuss I will get from them is just not worth it.

People who are friends with me should know and accept this part of me, so I have no reservations in front of them. If and when they feel uncomfortable, they are free to kick our friendship down a notch because I am not about to change myself for them. But tbh, most of them started out being critical about vulgarities but gradually became accustomed to them. One of the many reasons why I love them.

To sum up, vulgarities can be an expression of thoughts, of feelings, if you open your mind. Picking faults out of words will only make you miserable. There is a reason why there are no laws against vulgarities.

Merci.

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